(OPEN)
Good evening, lades and gentleman, before I deliver my C3 speech, I would like to ask you some questions. First, do you think I am a confident girl? Second, do you think I am the girl who can date with lots of boys? Third, do you think I am the girl who is lack of sense of security? Yes~ today my topic is “My SOS” the “SOS” is not “Save Our Soul”, and it’s not the Japanese play“Strawberry On the Shortcake” .My SOS is - Sense Of Security . When I heard someone talk about their boy/girlfriend can’t give them a sense of security, I always feel he/she is a stupid one. I think no matter we are alone, or date with someone, even get married, you can’t hand over your sense of security to another person to keep it. Because it’s wrong to do so, you should keep your sense of security by yourself.
(Body)
Actually, the sense of security is accumulated by our daily life. During our life, we need to continuously flesh our life out, then we can own abundant power and experience. The most stupid person is when they are dating with each other, they only want to limit each other. On their mind, they only can see each other. In fact, you have to let yourself and the other to have some chance to meet different opposite sex people. Why? If the time goes by and you have been get together for a long time, and finally he (she) still choose you to be their mate, that means you are the fantastic person on his (her) mind. Furthermore, if we have perfect abilities and conditions, we won’t afraid our boy (girl) friend will leave us. But if we limit each other’s action, even control his (her) life, maybe now he (she) can be constrained. But if in the future, he (she) meets a better or more suitable person, he (she) might leave you as well. At that time we will become more sad and heart broken, right?
(Conclusion)
You can think over it…When we speak out that we lack of the sense of security, actually it means we are afraid he (she) will leave us one day? After all, what are we afraid of? Are we afraid he (she) will meet a better person? Are we afraid there is someone more attractive to him (she)? Or we are just afraid of being compared with someone? But if we have the conditions to attract them, why should we need to be afraid? Perhaps some people might think it’s easy to say that. Yes, it is. Tell you the truth, I have been lack of sense of security before. During that time, I was always suspicious of my boyfriend. I checked his cell phone and asked him to tell me wherever he goes. Everyday I was haunted with fear and I was unhappy then. But one day, I straighten out my thinking. And I realize that it’s really useless to think too much, because it doesn’t help anything, you just create trouble for yourself and make you down. So I make my mind, I would rather keep the sense of security by myself than create trouble for myself. So from now on, let’s find our “SOS” back, and what should we do is just “Seeing more, listening more, and learning more”. Let’s accumulate more and more experiences and enhance our abilities and conditions, ok? Don’t be afraid of losing something, sometimes, when you lose something, you get more from losing. So don’t take it too seriously, you can have your own better life.
